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How to Break Up with a Boy

1. Consider why you're breaking up with him. Why are you breaking up with him? Is there even a reason? Make sure you're not breaking up with him because you're bored. Try to fix things. If you know that they can't be fixed, then it's time to let him go.

 

2. Drop Hints that you don't want to continue the relationship. When he comes in to kiss you, pull away. When he hugs you, don't hug back or pull away quickly. When he tells you he loves you, change the subject. Don't have deep hear-to-heart conversations with him. Don't overdo this step. The point is not to be mean, but rather to give him an idea that things are coming to an end so that he is prepared when you break up with him.

 

3. Prepare for the talk. Be sensitive. Break up with him face to face (unless the two of you are long distance—then a phone call or skype is the next best thing), and make sure the two of you are alone. Don't be mean or tell lies—tell him simply that you don't think that the relationship is working out. Try to avoid "let's just be friends" or "it's not you, it's me," as these cliches will make it sound like you haven't put much thought into his feelings. If you want to stay friends, tell him that. Be sure he knows that you want to give him time to get over you, though. Let him know that you're not going to make the first move at the friendship, but that once he feels ready to be friends he should give you a call. This will help give you both time apart to get over the relationship. Follow up on your promise to be friendly when he does call you. Be stern but kind. You don't want to get suckered back into the relationship because he makes you feel bad, but you don't want to hurt him more than you have to, either.

 

4. After the break up, let him ask questions. It's likely that he will want a bigger explanation, even if he doesn't say it right away. Be open to talking to him. It will show him you're open to talking, and thus that you'll work to be a good friend when he's ready. It will also give him the closure that he may need to move on.

 

5. Don't talk behind his back. Just because the two of you are broken up doesn't mean you can go spreading his deepest darkest secrets. You would want him to respect your privacy too, wouldn't you?

 

6. Keep the public hooking up with other guys to a minimum. A breakup is not a contest, and you're not going to win by hooking up with more people than your ex. If you can't help but enjoy the single life, keep the publicity to a minimum. Don't post statuses or pictures of it on Facebook, and don't parade around school with a new boy toy days after the breakup. This will only make your ex feel worse.

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